- Penn Badgley a.k.a. sociopath Joe Goldberg in Netflix’s You (which is set to return for season 3 in 2021) has been married to musician and doula Domino Kirke since 2017.
- Kirke and Badgley welcomed their first child in August 2020, after Kirke had suffered multiple miscarriages.
- Here’s everything you need to know about Kirke, whose sisters are actresses Jemima and Lola Kirke.
The second season of Netflix’s deeply addictive thriller You brings back Penn Badgley, 33, as Joe Goldberg, a charismatic sociopath who thinks he’s a Nice Guy. Badgley, who’s already beloved by many TV fans for his iconic role as Gossip Girl’s Dan “Lonely Boy” Humphrey, has been married to his wife Domino Kirke since 2017.
Here are a few key things to know about her, and their growing family: Kirke gave birth to their first child in August 2020.
Kirke and Badgley have welcomed a son.
On October 5, Kirke shared a photo of her brand-new son at less than three months old. In the pic, the adorable baby boy wears a green and white striped onesie as he and his famous dad gaze into each other’s eyes. The couple has not shared their new bundle’s name as of yet.
After announcing the happy couple was expecting back in February, Kirke first shared a birth announcement by way of an Instagram update on September 20. The post made it clear that she had given birth, and it also revealed the sex of their child, a boy.
“His heart shaped home! #40dayspostpartum,” Kirke captioned a photo of a painting of a heart, meaning their son was born around August 11. And that heart is no regular painting, as Kirke also hashtagged the image “placentaart.”
Though it may sound odd to some, given Kirke’s doula experience, she’d likely be the first to tell you that plenty of parents have long saved their baby’s placenta, which was its nutrient-dense first home after birth. Some choose to eat it, or bury it as cultures around the world do. Placenta art prints, which have been a thing since at least 2013 when Time deemed it a “trend,” honor that life-giving time of pregnancy and delivery.
And, as Kirke has shared, she had a long, tough journey to experiencing that with Badgley.
Though the doula / musician has an 11-year-old son from a prior relationship (more on him below) this is Kirke and Badgley’s first child together. She shared the happy pregnancy news on Instagram, explaining that she had previously suffered miscarriages.
“Pregnancy after loss is a whole other thing,” she wrote. “After two miscarriages in a row we were ready to call it. I stopped trusting my body and started to accept the fact that I was done. As a birth attendant, I’ve seen and heard it all. It takes everything I’ve got to detach lovingly from the losses I’ve been present for and be in my own experience. When I was pregnant at 25, I knew nothing. I had no community. I dove in blissfully unaware about birth and its mysteries. Now, with 10 years worth of experience to pull from, I treasure my birth community and the knowledge I have. You’re already teaching us how to stay in the day in a way we’ve never had to, little one. Thank you.”
You might recognize Domino Kirke’s sisters.
Domino, 36, is the oldest of three, and it’s pretty likely you’ve heard of her actress sisters. Jemima Kirke, 35, is best known for her role as sardonic party girl Jessa in HBO’s Girls, and has also appeared in Maniac, High Maintenance, and Zayn’s music video for the single “Dusk Till Dawn.” Meanwhile, her youngest sister Lola Kirke, 29, starred in Amazon’s series Mozart in the Jungle, and also appeared in David Fincher’s Gone Girl and the Netflix movie Lost Girls.
All three Kirke sisters were born in London, England, but were raised in Brooklyn, New York by their parents Simon and Lorraine Kirke.
Kirke’s dad is a rock star.
S,imone Kirke is an English drummer, who is best known as being the drummer for the band Free and classic rock supergroup Bad Company. He has been in the band and all versions of its lineup since its inception. No longer married to Domino Kirke’s mother, Lorraine, he is currently married to Maria Figueredo. Here are Domino Kirke’s parents, Simon and Lorraine.
Kirke is a singer-songwriter herself.
Kirke has been a musician since she was a teenager, and her band DOMINO has collaborated with Mark Ronson and toured with artists including Lily Allen and Gangs of Four. She released her debut album, Beyond Waves, in 2017. The video for “Half Blood” features Kirke’s half-brother as well as an appearance by Badgley and his half-sister.
And she has an 11-year-old son called Cassius.
Kirke has admitted that her and Badgley’s relationship wasn’t initially very serious, because she was focusing on raising her son Cassius, who was born in 2009 (his father is musician Morgan O’Kane).
“I was sort of getting used to being a single mom, maybe a little too used to it,” Kirke told Hey Mama of her early days with Badgley. “I had a really good thing with my kid and we were like this little team. Penn and I were dating, but it wasn’t nearly as serious as it is now, of course. I didn’t think marriage was in the cards for us. So I was sort of just chugging along, surviving, and getting through the days, and I think the difference now is that I’m really living.”
More recently, Kirke told Us Weekly that Badgley is “a really good stepdad… He doesn’t have to be ‘dad’ so he can have more fun with him. It’s really nice. The stepparent thing is definitely uncharted territory for me cause I didn’t grow up with one, but he takes care of him really well.”
She was Amy Schumer’s doula.
In addition to her career as a musician, Kirke has been certified as a doula for many years, and one of her more recognizable clients is Amy Schumer, who sang Kirke’s praises after giving birth back in May. “What she did was make me and Chris feel totally secure and supported throughout my pregnancy and the birth process,” Schumer wrote on Instagram.
Kirke’s passion for birth education also led her to found Carriage House, a pregnancy care center in New York and Los Angeles that offers resources, education, and doula services to new and expecting mothers.
“I was always interested in becoming a midwife, then at my own birth I didn’t get the support I’d hoped for, and that changed everything. That’s why I became a doula,” Kirke told New York Family. “There’s such a need. I just realized that my labor was so long and crazy that I was really good at supporting a woman in labor—it just felt so close to home. I really wanted Carriage House to be a safe space for women to come and have their needs met.”
Kirke and Badgley had two weddings.
The couple married in February of 2017, in an intimate courthouse ceremony in Brooklyn (where they still live), and celebrated afterward with a reception at Brooklyn restaurant Maison May. A few months later in June, the couple had a larger outdoor wedding reception in upstate New York, which was attended by celebrity friends including Mariska Hargitay, Debra Messing, Heidi Klum, and Zac Posen.
Badgley calls their love “divine.”
While Badgley is very private and rarely speaks publicly about his relationship, he did give some sweet details to People about the spiritual awakening that coincided with meeting Kirke. “I don’t think I could truly value human love until I developed divine love,” he said. “[Domino and I] very much had a romantic beginning, and I think that you discover in marriage that what sustains a marriage for decades—there are less and less people who can tell us this—but I think it has something to do with [divine] love.”